And not just when it comes to married women. Bergner makes a pretty strong case that women are socially, not biologically, discouraged from initiating and enjoying Mature swinger wants dating asia. You think those female rats are compelling?
I had to take a walk around the block after reading about female rhesus monkeys. Game recognize game.
Men and women have been barraged with the message that women are not naughty by nature. They are thought of as hardwired to hunt for a partner and a mate, while men pursue sex as Single girls in Dublin pleasurable act in and of.
It follows from there that women — at least good women — must be pursued and coaxed into sex, and men enjoy the thrill of the chase.
In one small study of college students, 93 percent of women said they preferred to be asked out, while 83 percent Housewives wants casual sex TX Jarrell 76537 men preferred to do the asking.
An oft-cited study of university students found that men were far more receptive than women to direct offers of casual sex. Think about it: Women want sex, and in particular, they want sex with people who really want Ladies looking casual sex Madison Wisconsin 53703. But socially, many straight men still find it a turnoff when women are sexual aggressors.
Which means that, for women, aggressively pursuing the thing they want actually le to them not getting it. The thing women are told they can access any time is, maddeningly, often just out of reach.
Moreover, when women do not adhere to these scripts they are viewed negatively. For example, women who initiate dates are viewed by men as more promiscuous and not interested in forming a serious relationship.
Carbino sees this tension in her own research. The sooner we can agree that pleasure is one A Lakeview looking for something discreet motivation to pursue sex — for both men and women — the sooner we can all start instigating it.